Like many couples who find each other late in life, Brad and Jan Lundy wanted something more from their relationship.
   Both deeply spiritual, they enjoyed a passionate romance - and then the honeymoon ended. The Lundys found themselves falling into old patterns, having arguments that sounded familiar.
   "We just had this powerful intention to come up with a new way to be in a relationship," Jan said.
   "We didn't know what we were going after, we just knew we could have a lot more than what we had," Brad added.
   Indeed, they've found what they were looking for and, along the way, discovered ideas and techniques they're now sharing with other couples in Perfect Love: How to Find Yours and Make It Last Forever (2006 Heart to Heart Press).
   "We didn't start out to write a book," Brad explained. "We started out to find the relationship of our dreams."
   The Lundys are quick to admit their transformation wasn't altogether smooth. But the pay off was also much more than they expected. All aspects of their lives and virtually every relationship has been transformed by a simple, yet profound idea: that we are all Spirit beings, having a human experience. And we have a choice, to relate on a human (Ego) level or on the Spirit level.
   The book includes a list of qualities to help readers identify each type of behavior. Characteristics of Spirit include love, patience, inner peace; those of Ego focus on the negative - fear, scarcity, anger, separation.
   "We see it resonating with people, almost like they're being reminded of some deeper truth," Brad said. "People are finding it more familiar than we ever expected."
   The book lays out not only the ideas behind relating to a partner at the higher level, but also practical tips that will help couples make - and keep - the Spirit connection.
   "People read the book and they immediately have a shift in their relationship," Jan said. "That's kind of like a 'honeymoon period'."
   Often, it isn't long before Ego muscles its way back into the picture. When readers call saying they've "lost" their perfect love, the Lundys remind them the techniques and concepts require daily choices, daily practice.
   The beauty of choosing Spirit, they say, is that it quickly becomes a natural joy. For them, the difference has become so profound, choosing Ego feels uncomfortable, and they are quick to move back to where they started.
   This new feeling seems to spread of its own accord, to relationships with children, family members and friends. Jan has even noticed a shift in the way she looks at complete strangers; she is less likely to hear her "judgment-making voice" as she sees each person as a unique, divine creation. When Brad raises his own "vibration", the way he looks at everyone around him changes as well.
   "There's very little trying involved in this material," Brad said. "It's almost like nurturing yourself. It's the highest level of taking care of yourself."
   The universal nature of Perfect Love, expressed at the end of the book, has the potential to change much more than relationships, the Lundys believe.
   While the world's greatest masters - from Buddah to Jesus - have urged their followers to "be love", the problem for most people lies in the doing. That's where the concepts in Perfect Love aim, Jan said. While she and Brad meditated and worked closely on the rest of the book, Jan felt a much greater energy surrounding those last two chapters.
   "It was as if everybody who could helped with the writing," she said. It seemed a real testament to the importance of the concept.
   The next step for the Lundys is to take Perfect Love out into the world. They hope to spend time in workshops that help couples start cruising into a richer, more joy-filled life. And those couples will, in turn, see these concepts change their relationships with their children, their parents and the world around them. The Lundys say experts in quantum physics believe just 80,000 people with a raised vibration or consciousness would create a shift that would lead to monumentally positive changes, world-wide.
   "It's kind of like saving the world, one relationship at a time," Jan said.

--Joni Hubred-Golden